The essentials
House Rules & Consent
These aren't fine print, they're the agreement that makes everything else possible. By attending a Obscuraevent you agree to live by them. Read them, mean them and we'll all have an unforgettable night.
Consent is everything
Every interaction begins and continues with a clear, enthusiastic yes. Consent is specific, ongoing and can be withdrawn at any moment, no explanation owed.
- Always ask before you touch. A pause is not a yes.
- Enthusiasm is the standard, anything less is a no.
- Anyone can change their mind at any point and that's respected instantly.
- Consent given for one thing isn't consent for another.
“No” is a complete sentence
A no, spoken, gestured or simply a step back, is final and never up for negotiation. Take it gracefully; it's part of the culture that keeps the room good.
- Never pressure, guilt or persist after a no.
- Don't take rejection personally, it keeps everyone comfortable.
- If you're unsure whether something is welcome, ask or step away.
Discretion & privacy
What happens at the party stays at the party. Everyone here is trusting the room with their privacy, protect it like you'd want yours protected.
- Absolutely no photos, video or recording of any kind.
- Phones away in play areas.
- Never share names, faces or who you saw, inside or outside.
- Respect that some guests may not acknowledge you elsewhere.
Health & protection
We keep the space stocked with protection and wellness supplies and we expect everyone to play safely and stay clean.
- Protection is provided and its use is expected.
- Look after your own hygiene and your partners' comfort.
- Only attend if you're feeling well.
- Know your status and play responsibly.
Stay in control
Enjoy yourself but stay present and aware. Good judgment keeps consent meaningful.
- Pace your drinks, sloppy isn't sexy or safe.
- We may decline entry or ask anyone to leave who's too intoxicated.
- Look out for each other; flag a host if something feels off.
Hosts are here for you
Our team is present all night. If you ever feel uncomfortable, unsafe or just need a moment, find a host, discreetly and without hesitation.
- Approach any host at any time, for anything.
- Need help leaving a situation? We'll handle it, no questions.
- Concerns are always taken seriously and kept private.
Zero tolerance
The following result in immediate removal without refund and a permanent ban. This is what makes the room safe enough to be free.
- Any non-consensual touching or behavior.
- Harassment, coercion or pressuring others.
- Recording or sharing anyone without consent.
- Aggression or ignoring a host's direction.
The short version
Ask first. Respect every no. Protect each other's privacy. Look after yourself and the room. Be the kind of guest you'd want beside you.